There are lots of reasons to celebrate pregnancy – a new baby is on the way, your hair is lustrous, and your skin is radiant. And for some of us, particularly in trimester two and three, sex drive can increase dramatically, thanks to the higher levels of the hormone, oestrogen, raging through our bodies.
But is it safe to have sex during pregnancy and take advantage of your increased sexual appetite during this golden period? The experts say yes, absolutely, subject, of course, to their being no contra-indications with your pregnancy but let’s break it down in more detail.
Is It Safe to Have Sex During Pregnancy?
For most women, penetrative sex is perfectly safe for you and your baby if your pregnancy is progressing normally. In case you were worried, rest assured that your baby is located nowhere near where the main event takes place, is fully protected by the amniotic sac, and will not be harmed. Additionally, a thick mucus plug seals the cervix, guarding against infections. However, it is essential to consult with your healthcare provider to ensure there are no specific medical conditions or complications that might make sex risky in your particular case.
Benefits of Sex During Pregnancy
The good news is that having sex at this time won’t just satisfy you and your partner’s lust. There are plenty of other reasons why sex can be beneficial during pregnancy.
- It can help you connect with your partner. Being pregnant can cause significant changes in your relationship with your partner. Having intimate sex can really help to strengthen the bond between you.
- Sex can help promote sleep. Many women have trouble sleeping in pregnancy – heartburn, leg cramps and general discomfort are common causes. Sex and the aftermath can help you to feel relaxed and more inclined to drift off into a deep, restful sleep.
- Sex can help relieve pain and anxiety. Being pregnant can make you feel anxious. There’s a lot to think about when bringing a baby into the world – the responsibility of becoming a parent as well as the financial implications. Having an orgasm can give you some respite, as it helps to release oxytocin, the hormone with the feel-good factor.
- Sex can be good for aiding your post-partum recovery. Did you know that orgasms are really good for exercising your pelvic floor? When an orgasm occurs, there is a uterine contraction and then the muscles around the pelvic floor contract. In pregnancy, due to increased blood flow, orgasms can be even more intense than they are normally (in fact some women who find it hard to achieve orgasm under normal circumstances, may find that they do so much more easily when pregnant). This method definitely beats squeezing in and counting to 15 whilst waiting at the bus stop.
- Sex can improve your self-esteem. With all the changes taking place within your body during pregnancy, you may feel as IF it almost doesn’t belong to you. Having sex can help restore your body confidence and restore positive feelings about yourself.
- It can introduce new possibilities. It’s a great time to experiment with different sexual positions. Getting on top will allow you to dictate the level of penetration by your partner or on all fours will mean you can connect without your bump getting in the way. Anything goes, so long as it feels comfortable, both mentally and physically to both you and your partner!
Common Concerns and Myths
It’s understandable if you have concerns about sex during pregnancy especially with so many myths floating around:
- Miscarriage Fears: Many couples worry that sex might lead to a miscarriage. However, in a healthy pregnancy, sex does not cause miscarriage but, again, if you are in any way unsure speak to your healthcare advisor.
- Impact on the Baby: The baby is well protected and does not feel discomfort or harm from sexual activity. The amniotic fluid cushions the baby, and the uterus’s muscles provide a safe environment.
- Pain or Discomfort: Some women may experience discomfort during sex due to hormonal changes and increased blood flow to the pelvic area. It’s essential to communicate with your partner and try different positions to find what is most comfortable.
- Changes in Libido: Hormonal fluctuations can affect sexual desire. Some women may experience an increase in libido, while others may notice a decrease. Both are entirely normal, and open communication with your partner is key to navigating these changes.
Positions and Tips for Comfort
As the pregnancy progresses, certain sexual positions may become uncomfortable. Here are some position ideas you may like to try that may be more comfortable:
- Side lying Position: This position reduces pressure on the abdomen and allows for deeper penetration. Both partners lie on their sides, facing each other or spooning.
- Woman on Top: This position gives the pregnant partner control over the depth and speed of penetration, making it easier to find a comfortable rhythm.
- Edge of the Bed: The pregnant partner lies on their back with their hips at the edge of the bed while the other partner stands or kneels. This position helps avoid putting pressure on the abdomen.
- Use of Pillows and Props: Pillows can provide support and comfort. Placing a pillow under the hips can alleviate pressure on the lower back, and using a body pillow can support the belly.
So, if you’re feeling the urge, why not go for it? Sex in this pre partum stage particularly if it’s your first pregnancy, is when you should make the most of it. Immediately after birth, be warned that your hormones may take you in a very different direction when it comes to sexual desire.
Enjoy and make the most of it!
